Determined To Succeed

Hey there, my friends. I hope you guys had a great weekend. What did I do? I shoveled snow and watched this little, itty-bitty football game that was on yesterday (actually mostly for the commercials).

I was going to blog today about the commercials I liked best which, in my opinion, were the Doritos commercials. I thought they were clever, funny and memorable. Even in the commercial where the guys in the gym caught Doritos in the neck I thought they did a good job, through use of color, of making me almost taste the damn things. Yes, they worked. They made me want Doritos. Made me munch on the little orange cheddary bastards. But did I have any? No (thank God). I would have been munching on them all night.

Instead I wanted to blog about a disturbing letter I received from someone. This person is going to remain anonymous but their letter struck such chords in me I thought I’d share a couple of key (yet still all-encompassing) feelings I thought would be helpful as we all get back to our weight loss routines after Super Bowl Sunday.

This person fears becoming fat, even though they are not that overweight comparatively speaking to many of us. Why? Because of how one of their parents used to put down the other for being overweight. And to add salt to this already open wound, this person knows their spouse hates overweight people (and so do that spouse’s friends) adding to this fear of being or becoming fat and, therefore, makes this person feel self-conscious, shunned, put down and ashamed for any weight they gain.

I told this person the following things:

The spouse sounds like a selfish, judgmental taker, and that is wrong.  Just because negative opinions about overweight people are prevalent in today’s world (from the fashion world, magazines, TV, you name it) doesn’t mean anyone should put up with it. I’m just gonna throw that out there.

Also, people who judge people because they are fat suck, make us sad and make us want to eat even more. But even so, you have to try to learn, as I did, not to care what others think. This is key. You have to love yourself to take care of yourself first and foremost and do for you what you have never done before. Say NO, ENOUGH. and NO MORE. I WILL NOT LISTEN TO YOUR WORDS ANYMORE.

I am so not a psychologist/psychiatrist so what I am saying is just me offering my opinion and I always beg people to consider talking to a professional to help them with their emotional circumstances.

Again this all comes down to you being happy, especially in weight loss. I lost weight because I wanted to do this for ME and you will lose those pounds, too, but if and only if  you do it for YOURSELF and not for your friends, spouse or ghosts of your parents’ harsh words.

I hope my words help. At least help you to know you have people out there who know what being put down feels like, and who are wiling to listen, share and offer what you NEED to hear. The world is filled with mean, hateful and spiteful people with preconceived notions of why people are heavy. Screw them! They are the ones who are deficient and insecure.

For we are beautiful even if we are heavy and like Doritos from time to time.